Mountainside Counseling Center Blog

For many individuals, the decision to go to couples’ therapy may signal defeat. But in reality, the earlier you decide to go, the better the odds are that your relationship can make it. According to John Gottmans’s research the average length of time a couple waits...

Marriage isn’t easy, even for the most compatible individuals. Over the course of a long-term relationship, countless changes take place, and each partner’s needs may evolve as a result. While maintaining a marriage takes a fair amount of effort, most couples who make...

Altering How the Relationship is Understood Your therapist can help you identify and  break the blame cycle; look at your relationship through a more objective lens. They do this by learning about your stressors or sources of conflict in the relationship, then helping...

Watching a loved one struggle with substance abuse can put anyone through a complex range of challenging emotions. You may feel frustrated, sad, angry, and ultimately, helpless. While it may feel as if there’s little you can do to help your partner overcome addiction,...

Successful completion of addiction treatment is no small feat, and this monumental step towards a lifetime of recovery certainly deserves recognition. Recovery doesn’t end after a rehab, however. For people who have experienced addiction, a treatment plan should...

In a partnership, addiction affects both people. While undergoing detox or inpatient rehab is an important hurdle to overcome, couples are often left wondering how to move forward in their relationship afterwards. If you or your loved one is recovering from substance...

For many people, going to couples’ therapy and realizing its benefits firsthand is satisfying enough. Others, however, are interested in learning the why behind counseling, including why and how certain methods work. If you’re considering therapy for yourself and your...

Often when a new couple comes in there’s what we call the “Drag-er”  and the “Drag-ee”, meaning there’s one member of the couple who is more enthusiastic about couples therapy than the other.   If you and your partner are considering couples’ counseling, or your...

People in all types of committed relationships experience road bumps, so counseling for couples isn’t reserved for just one type of partnership. Still, you may be wondering whether it’s appropriate to go for counseling if you’re not married or engaged. The fact is...

Whether a recent event has rocked the foundation of your relationship or you feel disconnected from your loved one over time, you may be questioning whether the partnership is even worth saving. On the one hand,  if you’re asking yourself this question in the first...